Arriving only 18 months after my brother, who didn’t take kindly to my intrusion into his orderly world, my formative years were spent mostly in survival mode and I can probably attribute my early lion tendencies to these experiences. He maintains that my early tendencies were not lion. Whilst he would spend hours building the perfect sand castle and lining up his toy cars by model and colours, I would arrive to “help” with all the finesse of a baby rhino and demolish much of what was in my path. My mother would say that whilst she often had to look for him, and would eventually find him amusing himself quietly with his toys, she never had to look for me. She just had to follow the shrieking, raucus laughter, loud banging or look on the roof or up one of the many trees surrounding our house.
So despite originating from the same gene pool, the same upbringing and the same teachings, we were different.
My brother and I, eventually tiring of trying to kill each other, went on to form a powerful business partnership that has not only endured- but has grown exponentially over the past 20 years. Our power was in our differences, but we only unleashed that power when we understood what they were and how to manage them effectively.
My brothers quiet and orderly ways were his “default” settings. My loud and boundary crashing ways were my default settings. We were born with ours. You were born with yours.