If it's someone we don't yet know or don't trust, the temptation is to take the label and write them off as a hopeless case. After all, you already have all the information you need, so why bother looking for more?
Except that the labels are only descriptive through our own interpretation. A perfectionist might be overly fussy, or attentive to the little details that make all the difference. A reflective thinker may not give you an instant answer, but the thoughtful response could be better.
If you need or want a more productive relationship, it's far more useful is to ask yourself, 'How else can I think about this person?'.
Change your thinking, change your question, change the outcome.
Til next time