Making Time

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I find it interesting that when the economy is buoyant and all is going well, people are so busy they haven't got enough time in their day.

It’s just the same in a recession, and for some people even more so.  Making Time is the theme for this month.  This came to my attention as I took a walk along the beach early one morning last week. It was the first time that week though normally I do this most mornings.  Apart from the exercise and fresh sea smells, I find it is a place of inspiration and it occurred to me to challenge myself why I hadn’t made time to be there.  What it really meant was my priorities had changed and I had all the reasons why I hadn’t had time, but they were just excuses and I recognised them for that and the importance of making time for myself.

I was with a group of managers last week and they were all experiencing busyness and frenetic days at work.  Some said they hadn’t got time to eat, one said he almost forgot he had a team of people who needed him, while two managers didn’t show up because of other priorities.

Maybe it’s time to be selfish.  I don’t mean this in the sense we don’t care about others, however, if we are not selfish then we cannot be 100% present for others.  Making Time to take care of yourself is very important. If your days are manic, frenetic, flying from meeting to meeting, dealing with a myriad of issues, what is the quality of your decision making? Who are you neglecting besides you? 

When I spoke on the phone recently to a 9 year old boy and asked him when his Mother would be home he said he didn’t know, as she was always late.  That Mother is running a retirement home, has 3 children at home, and admitted to me that she doesn’t make time for them, her husband or herself and has problems with her eldest son, who has left home and lives with his grandmother.  I wonder why?

Yesterday a client told me that a mistake he made recently was entirely due to rushing and not taking the time to ensure the correct information was given to the right customer.  The mess that occurred took a lot more time, energy and re-building of the relationship, than taking a bit more time in the first place. Treating every situation as if it was a life or death issue is ridiculous – but it looks like that to others who are not involved. In general, rushing doesn’t work and mistakes can be very costly. Not just in monetary terms, but with those relationships with colleagues, clients and customers and the most important ones – with our families and friends.

If any of the above is in any way familiar to you then maybe it’s time to “slow down to run faster” and make time for you so you can take care of others both at work and home. 

Resilience Tip for The Month

FOCUS. If making time is important and multitasking has its downsides, then we need to Focus and not let ourselves be distracted.  This requires discipline and valuing what we are doing at any one moment. That Focus may be writing a report, coaching an employee, participating in a meeting, listening to a family member about their day.  Or are you multitasking – if not visibly, but in your head? Here are some ideas:
1. Turn off all distractions – depending on the situation it may be a phone, TV or computer screen
2. Put aside any reading material that is not applicable to the situation
3. Keep to your priorities for the day, be willing to say NO, so you don’t let people down to whom you have made prior commitments
4. Be prepared to be challenged by others if you ask them to focus and they notice you don’t!
5. Even if you have 20 things on the go Focus only on One thing 100% at any time, whether it be for 10 minutes or 1 hour.


“Forget mistakes. Forget failures. Forget everything except what you are going to do right now, and do it". Will Durant


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Gilly helps people achieve insight powered breakthroughs for themselves and their businesses. She is an inspirational speaker who presents keynotes and breakouts at conferences and writes about the key ingredients for success in today’s world.

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