If only you can take that back...
The deed is done. The act cannot be undone. And the dreaded feeling starts to well up from your toes through to the top of your head as guilt starts to fill your body.
There should be a reset button for ‘life’...
As many of you know, I had a major meltdown with my IT at work. I had to rebuild my computer and re-establish all of my data and accounts from scratch! I think back to the time I played Wii with the kids & found myself losing the game. To save myself from embarrassment, I just pushed the reset button to make it go away. If only there was a big red reset button that you can push to reset your life every now and again.
So, I got thinking about how we can put strategies in place to undo some of the ‘dumb’ things that have tripped us up in the past. To help you get back on track, here are 5 things that I recommend you RESET to help you lift the lid:
1. Reset your relationships.
If you’ve upset somebody or been upset by them, ask for forgiveness and forgive them for the thing that has caused the hurt. They say that unforgiveness is like eating poison yourself, but expecting the other person to die. Is it worth it…? Where is that reset button when you need it?
2. Reset your volume.
There are times when I get so frustrated that I tend to raise my voice to get my point through. How do I know? Because my wife tells me so! The next time you want to get your point through, think about what you are saying as ask yourself, “Am I shouting my point through, or using a calming & relaxed approach to getting my message across?”
3. Reset your temper.
There is an ancient proverb that says, “He who is slow to get angry has great understanding, but he who has a quick temper makes his foolish way look right.” If there are certain people, or certain situations that make your blood boil, look out for the warning signs and make plans to combat them! Start off by avoiding those people, or if you can’t, start counting to 20 before you say something that you’ll regret.
4. Reset your tone.
Words only account for 7% of the meaning of our communications. 55% is in our physiology and 38% is in our voice tonality. It’s not WHAT we say, but HOW we say it that makes a difference. Make sure that you’re not condescending or sarcastic in the way you ask for things – let alone demanding – if you want others to help you or co-operate.
5. Reset your self.
Socrates said, “To thine own self be true!” As John Maxwell says in his Minute with Maxwell video, if you want to improve your organisation, start by improving yourself. Give yourself a chance, pay the price, be disciplined and grow – and as you develop yourself, good things will happen to you!
So, the next time you find yourself needing to start again, reset these 5 things to help you lift the lid on your potential!
Author: Elias Kanaris Photo by delphaber